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當我看到這個問題時，我竟然傻了

快樂的定義．．．對我來說是什麼呢

我竟然一下子回答不出來

我仔細想了想．．．

或許是自己和家人的平安又健康的狀態

是自己工作能力被肯定有成就感

是自己經濟獨立之外還能夠做善事或捐款來助人

是能夠笑口常開吧

喜歡一個人，就是在一起很開心；

愛一個人，就是即使不開心，也想在一起。

原來，孤單不是與生俱來，

而是由你愛上一個人的那一刻開始。

對於自己何時對他由喜歡變成了愛,而變成因為太在乎

而愛一個人,就是即使不開心,也想在一起

我一直不願輕易放棄我們的感情

我努力要讓自己恢復健康

我改變自己融入他的家庭

我希望他看到我的好,我的付出

我期待他多和我說說他心裡的感覺

只是我失望了

我期待我們有一天會知道怎麼好好的相處而更愛對方

我們總是聽別人說....相愛容易相處難

如果我們好不容易相愛，為什麼不能為了想好好相處而努力呢

那時我不夠成熟吧，在我發現我在表達自己的想法時

即使沒有要勉強對方必須改變想法或做法勉強對方必須和我一樣時，

卻會不小心因為表達想法時而有點激動卻讓對方不愉快吧，

所以他說我們無法溝通，這是我們最大的問題

這是我最近和媽媽的互動裡觀察到和三姊在一旁提醒我的，

人要讓對方說完，要耐心傾聽後，再慢慢地說出自己的感覺和想法

這樣對方才不會感到被反駁而不悅

年輕時，我不懂，只是現在我懂了，也要落實在與每個人的相處上

但．．．他在與現在女友的交往過程中，他懂了嗎？

我總是想問．．．他還會為了小事而生氣嗎？還是即使生氣，他已經懂得要怎麼去面對和處理那樣的情緒了呢

那真的是因為他夠愛她了嗎？所以他不會為了小事生氣

近視成因

眼球拉長，外來景象投影在視網膜前，眼睛無法適當的調控並對焦。

小朋友出生~兩歲間晚上睡覺點小夜燈，長大容易近視：眼睛需要在全黑的狀況下才能獲得足夠的休息。未滿兩歲之前，眼睛正在發育需要充足的休息，若睡覺受到光線刺激長大就容易會近視。

為何會近視？

• 基因：華人比外國人容易近視。
• 用眼過度、眼睛不運動及不休息：近距離看書或看電視會造成眼睛肌肉疲乏，如果又沒有讓眼睛肌肉有適量的休息與運動來舒緩疲勞，一段時間後，就會形成假性近視。
• 小朋友出生~兩歲間晚上睡覺點小夜燈，長大容易近視：眼睛需要在全黑的狀況下才能獲得足夠的休息。未滿兩歲之前，眼睛正在發育需要充足的休息，若睡覺受到光線刺激長大就容易會近視。
• 營養不良、身體弱、氣虛等。

近視症狀與後遺症

• 視力模糊。
• 看較遠的東西眼睛會瞇起來。
• 頭痛：眼鏡配戴度數不對、長期瞇眼看東西、有近視不戴眼鏡等所引起的。
• 高度近視可能會有的後遺症有視網膜剝落、黃斑退化等眼睛的退化性疾病。

雷射近視手術(Lasik)

雷射手術是將眼睛的角膜削薄，治療近視非常有效，但眼睛雷射手術盡量不要做。
正常角膜厚度約500~600微米。當角膜變薄又眼內壓高的情況下，角膜會變成圓錐狀(圓錐角膜)，造成視力模糊甚至失明。

一般保健方法

• 近距離看書或看電視，每50分鐘要休息10分鐘。
• 保持適當距離：美國建議距離為18~20吋；台灣是30公分。
• 螢幕中心點要低於眼睛水平線11~15度最佳。
• 剛近視時不需要戴眼鏡，可以先戴針孔眼鏡(沒鏡片，是一堆針孔)

自然醫學的保健方法

• 睡覺不開小夜燈
• 避開毒素：毒素會讓身體運作下降，造成疲勞、氣血兩虛。
• 補充抗營養品：維生素A、維生素C、維生素E、維生素D、B群、鈣、鉻、谷胱甘肽、硒、生物物類黃酮、藍莓、枸杞等。
• 針灸：對近視效果好。扎的好，密集的治療(2~3次/wk)約1個月就可以看到效果。
• 指壓：眼睛附近的穴位有承泣、睛明、攢竹、魚腰、瞳子髎、四白(對鼻子效果較好)、太陽
• 睡眠：睡眠不足會造成氣血兩虛。
• 飲食：要補充蔬果中大量的抗氧化劑。
• 腸胃道功能：腸胃道好才能吸收營養素。
• 眼球運動：訓練眼睛肌肉
• 補氣

總結：

久視、不運動、缺乏休息、眼睛疲勞、眼睛穴位痠痛、假性近視、近視。

愛一個人，在一起時會莫名的失落。

喜歡一個人，永遠是歡樂；

愛一個人，你會常常流淚。

喜歡一個人，當你想起他會微微一笑；

愛一個人，當你想起他會對著天空發呆。

喜歡一個人，是看到了他的優點；

愛一個人，是包容了他的缺點。

喜歡，是一種心情；

愛，是一種感情。

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今天真是個充實的一天，去聽了陳俊旭博士發炎失控是百病之源，腦心血管疾病與肝癌是由發炎引起，仔細記下抗發炎要吃什麼，也在講座後問了有關媽媽類風濕性關節炎怎麼控制,希望我聽到的可以幫助媽媽控制發炎,身體越來越健康,可以長命百歲,過更多幸福快樂的日子,讓他忘了痛苦的過去,擁有快樂的生活

 夢見分手多年的前男友,在夢中他逗我笑,我們好開心好快樂,我似乎好久沒有那麼快樂了
就像他一開始追求我時的甜蜜,一早醒來,發現竟然是夢,為什麼是夢,我好想永遠做夢不要醒來,活在夢裡,夢裡有他,而且他還愛著我,我們多麼的快樂
但為什麼...那只是一場夢而已,難道現在我的幸福快樂,只會出現在夢裡....
我不禁難過了起來,相對於夢中的快樂,我不知道是不是該可悲,他都已有交往多年的女友了
為什麼,我還忘不了他

因為又開始教小朋友,我又在想要不要去念教育方面的課程了，進修，旁聽，看書

只是有沒有必要找個學校,教學齡前或國小程度的大學來念,因為連請家教,很多都要求要大學生,教育相關系所畢業,學齡前還要會讀英文繪本,偏偏英文很差

如果因為自身的疾病而不能成為學校和幼稚園正式的老師,那我能不能有能力去念個大學,讓自己學以致用，然後讓我自己如果要靠家教過活,跟別人搶案子時,比較搶得到,因為社會是現實的,有的還要念特教科系的，，，？

再開始看之前看到一半”與孩子立約這本書”吧,還有再複習重讀在當安親班老師時買的有關教學錦囊的書

期望我教的小朋友聽得懂我教的,我們倆的互動越來越好,能夠讓他喜歡上學習,不害怕回答寫題目,越來越有信心，並且和家長能有好的溝通與互動，讓小朋友能在愉快的環境下學習不要有太大的壓力

森林小學的老師至少要大學畢業,沒有要求要念教育相關科系的樣子，當我看到森小招募老師，並說明要接受培訓時，我又想了想，我為什麼沒有大學畢業呢？

即使我可能不適合當一整班的老師，因為我總是想特別指導學習能力差的小朋友

沒有大學畢業,好像能做的事與工作越來越少了

蔡康永：


15歲覺得游泳難，放棄游泳，


到18歲遇到一個你喜歡的人約你去游泳，


你只好說「我不會耶」。


18歲覺得英文難，放棄英文，


28歲出現一個很棒但要會英文的工作，你只好說「我不會耶」。


人生前期越嫌麻煩，越懶得學，


後來就越可能錯過讓你動心的人和事，錯過新風景。


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Stanford Report, June 14, 2005 

'You've got to find what you love,' Jobs says

This is the text of the Commencement address by Steve Jobs, CEO of Apple Computer and of Pixar Animation Studios, delivered on June 12, 2005.

I am honored to be with you today at your commencement from one of the finest universities in the world. I never graduated from college. Truth be told, this is the closest I've ever gotten to a college graduation. Today I want to tell you three stories from my life. That's it. No big deal. Just three stories.

The first story is about connecting the dots.

I dropped out of Reed College after the first 6 months, but then stayed around as a drop-in for another 18 months or so before I really quit. So why did I drop out?

It started before I was born. My biological mother was a young, unwed college graduate student, and she decided to put me up for adoption. She felt very strongly that I should be adopted by college graduates, so everything was all set for me to be adopted at birth by a lawyer and his wife. Except that when I popped out they decided at the last minute that they really wanted a girl. So my parents, who were on a waiting list, got a call in the middle of the night asking: "We have an unexpected baby boy; do you want him?" They said: "Of course." My biological mother later found out that my mother had never graduated from college and that my father had never graduated from high school. She refused to sign the final adoption papers. She only relented a few months later when my parents promised that I would someday go to college.

And 17 years later I did go to college. But I naively chose a college that was almost as expensive as Stanford, and all of my working-class parents' savings were being spent on my college tuition. After six months, I couldn't see the value in it. I had no idea what I wanted to do with my life and no idea how college was going to help me figure it out. And here I was spending all of the money my parents had saved their entire life. So I decided to drop out and trust that it would all work out OK. It was pretty scary at the time, but looking back it was one of the best decisions I ever made. The minute I dropped out I could stop taking the required classes that didn't interest me, and begin dropping in on the ones that looked interesting.

It wasn't all romantic. I didn't have a dorm room, so I slept on the floor in friends' rooms, I returned coke bottles for the 5￠ deposits to buy food with, and I would walk the 7 miles across town every Sunday night to get one good meal a week at the Hare Krishna temple. I loved it. And much of what I stumbled into by following my curiosity and intuition turned out to be priceless later on. Let me give you one example:

Reed College at that time offered perhaps the best calligraphy instruction in the country. Throughout the campus every poster, every label on every drawer, was beautifully hand calligraphed. Because I had dropped out and didn't have to take the normal classes, I decided to take a calligraphy class to learn how to do this. I learned about serif and san serif typefaces, about varying the amount of space between different letter combinations, about what makes great typography great. It was beautiful, historical, artistically subtle in a way that science can't capture, and I found it fascinating.

None of this had even a hope of any practical application in my life. But ten years later, when we were designing the first Macintosh computer, it all came back to me. And we designed it all into the Mac. It was the first computer with beautiful typography. If I had never dropped in on that single course in college, the Mac would have never had multiple typefaces or proportionally spaced fonts. And since Windows just copied the Mac, its likely that no personal computer would have them. If I had never dropped out, I would have never dropped in on this calligraphy class, and personal computers might not have the wonderful typography that they do. Of course it was impossible to connect the dots looking forward when I was in college. But it was very, very clear looking backwards ten years later.

Again, you can't connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.

My second story is about love and loss.

I was lucky — I found what I loved to do early in life. Woz and I started Apple in my parents garage when I was 20. We worked hard, and in 10 years Apple had grown from just the two of us in a garage into a $2 billion company with over 4000 employees. We had just released our finest creation — the Macintosh — a year earlier, and I had just turned 30. And then I got fired. How can you get fired from a company you started? Well, as Apple grew we hired someone who I thought was very talented to run the company with me, and for the first year or so things went well. But then our visions of the future began to diverge and eventually we had a falling out. When we did, our Board of Directors sided with him. So at 30 I was out. And very publicly out. What had been the focus of my entire adult life was gone, and it was devastating.

I really didn't know what to do for a few months. I felt that I had let the previous generation of entrepreneurs down - that I had dropped the baton as it was being passed to me. I met with David Packard and Bob Noyce and tried to apologize for screwing up so badly. I was a very public failure, and I even thought about running away from the valley. But something slowly began to dawn on me — I still loved what I did. The turn of events at Apple had not changed that one bit. I had been rejected, but I was still in love. And so I decided to start over.

I didn't see it then, but it turned out that getting fired from Apple was the best thing that could have ever happened to me. The heaviness of being successful was replaced by the lightness of being a beginner again, less sure about everything. It freed me to enter one of the most creative periods of my life.

During the next five years, I started a company named NeXT, another company named Pixar, and fell in love with an amazing woman who would become my wife. Pixar went on to create the worlds first computer animated feature film, Toy Story, and is now the most successful animation studio in the world. In a remarkable turn of events, Apple bought NeXT, I returned to Apple, and the technology we developed at NeXT is at the heart of Apple's current renaissance. And Laurene and I have a wonderful family together.

I'm pretty sure none of this would have happened if I hadn't been fired from Apple. It was awful tasting medicine, but I guess the patient needed it. Sometimes life hits you in the head with a brick. Don't lose faith. I'm convinced that the only thing that kept me going was that I loved what I did. You've got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven't found it yet, keep looking. Don't settle. As with all matters of the heart, you'll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don't settle.

My third story is about death.

When I was 17, I read a quote that went something like: "If you live each day as if it was your last, someday you'll most certainly be right." It made an impression on me, and since then, for the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: "If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?" And whenever the answer has been "No" for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.

Remembering that I'll be dead soon is the most important tool I've ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything — all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure - these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.

About a year ago I was diagnosed with cancer. I had a scan at 7:30 in the morning, and it clearly showed a tumor on my pancreas. I didn't even know what a pancreas was. The doctors told me this was almost certainly a type of cancer that is incurable, and that I should expect to live no longer than three to six months. My doctor advised me to go home and get my affairs in order, which is doctor's code for prepare to die. It means to try to tell your kids everything you thought you'd have the next 10 years to tell them in just a few months. It means to make sure everything is buttoned up so that it will be as easy as possible for your family. It means to say your goodbyes.

I lived with that diagnosis all day. Later that evening I had a biopsy, where they stuck an endoscope down my throat, through my stomach and into my intestines, put a needle into my pancreas and got a few cells from the tumor. I was sedated, but my wife, who was there, told me that when they viewed the cells under a microscope the doctors started crying because it turned out to be a very rare form of pancreatic cancer that is curable with surgery. I had the surgery and I'm fine now.

This was the closest I've been to facing death, and I hope its the closest I get for a few more decades. Having lived through it, I can now say this to you with a bit more certainty than when death was a useful but purely intellectual concept:

No one wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don't want to die to get there. And yet death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it. And that is as it should be, because Death is very likely the single best invention of Life. It is Life's change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new. Right now the new is you, but someday not too long from now, you will gradually become the old and be cleared away. Sorry to be so dramatic, but it is quite true.

Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of others' opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.

When I was young, there was an amazing publication called The Whole Earth Catalog, which was one of the bibles of my generation. It was created by a fellow named Stewart Brand not far from here in Menlo Park, and he brought it to life with his poetic touch. This was in the late 1960's, before personal computers and desktop publishing, so it was all made with typewriters, scissors, and polaroid cameras. It was sort of like Google in paperback form, 35 years before Google came along: it was idealistic, and overflowing with neat tools and great notions.

Stewart and his team put out several issues of The Whole Earth Catalog, and then when it had run its course, they put out a final issue. It was the mid-1970s, and I was your age. On the back cover of their final issue was a photograph of an early morning country road, the kind you might find yourself hitchhiking on if you were so adventurous. Beneath it were the words: "Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish." It was their farewell message as they signed off. Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish. And I have always wished that for myself. And now, as you graduate to begin anew, I wish that for you.

Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish.

Thank you all very much.

英文原文引用：http://news-service.stanford.edu/news/2005/june15/jobs-061505

賈伯斯語錄-Steve Jobs (賈伯斯) 的十句經典名言：不要為別人而活。